Category Archives: Gay

Bill Supports FULL Gay Marriage

I have always loved Bill. He was, is, and will be my main man.

Click for the video of Bill and Anderson talking Gay Marriage
Click for the video of Bill and Anderson talking Gay Marriage

“I was against the constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage nation-wide, and I still think that the American people should be able to play this out in debates,” Clinton said. “But me, Bill Clinton personally, I changed my position.

“I am no longer opposed to that,” he added. “I think if people want to make commitments that last a lifetime, they ought to be able to do it.”


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It’s about the Obama Administration’s handling of LGBT rights.

O’Reilly Wants To Marry Lenny…and Squiggy

I’ve been saying gayness is a slippery slope for years! Once you give it a try, it’s nearly impossible to get yourself back on the Straight-town Express (I speak only from personal experience). I am referring of course, to expanding thinking about what love looks like and the kinds of ‘rules’ people think govern their romances and relationships. But Bill O’Reilly left me wondering…will the legalization of gay marriage mark the end of civilization as we know it…?!

O’Reilly brought up a solid point last night.If you allow gay marriage, how can you deny polygamous or polyamorous marriages? What about when a person wants to marry a turtle? or a goat?

click here to watch the video

click here to watch the video

Is gay marriage a slippery slope…? I’m not sure about that one. I believe that there is a big difference between two consenting adults willfully entering into a legal contract and a man walking into city hall with his goat on a rope looking to get hitched. But is there? Does this beautiful goat deserve her own white wedding?
Then what?! We’ll have to figure out how to regulate the relationships of all the little goat boys and girls running around?!

My question is, if gay marriage is in fact a slippery slope, and it opens the floodgates to all kinds of legally recognized love, what does the country stand to lose? Is there a terrifying mortal doom awaiting us all at the bottom of that slippery slope?

Or consider for a minute that the slippery slope is the best ride we’ve ever had as a country…?



I’m not sure if gay marriage is a slippery slope. I’m not sure if polygamy is a good or bad thing. I’m not sure if that goat isn’t wishing and hoping for her day to walk down the aisle. But what I’m REALLY not sure about is, what is so bad about a slippery slope? What if it leads us to the promised land? What if we’re so afraid to cross over to the other side of the mountain and take a trip down the slippery slope, that we can’t even see the amazing progress and good that is hanging out on the other side?

And He’s allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I’ve looked over. And I’ve seen the promised land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people will get to the promised land. And I’m happy, tonight.

– Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

He knew the slippery slope was exactly where the country needed to go.

Hate Crimes Are A ‘Hoax’

We got another one! WooHoo Maine! I always knew a state with a town called Bangor had something special going on 😉

These marriage victories are totally awesome. MA, CT, VT, ME, IA! 5 down, 45 to go. Really, the domino effect is underway and soon enough the marriage thing will be a non-issue, right? Thats super! I suppose this means I can’t blame my lack of a future possibility of marriage for my dating record for too much longer…

I have to say, even overlooking the fact that the idea of marriage kind of makes me light headed, I am really not as thrilled about the direction of the Gay Rights Movement in America as I think a lot of people are. Getting legally married is the least of my concerns when I think about the fact that I can legally be fired from a job in Virginia because of my sexuality, or that my representative in the House, Minority Whip Eric Cantor, voted AGAINST the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Act.

Cantor, and his conservative colleagues say they are against hate crimes legislation because it assumes the mental state of the criminal and punishes that person more harshly based on that assumption alone. They say a criminal is just a criminal and a crime is just a crime. Wow, cool idea guys. Sounds like you think punishing all crimes should be based only on the result of the crime and not the motive. Sounds like accidental death should really always be homicide, and any kind of crime based in negligence is really better tried with equal scrutiny as crimes with clear malicious motive. Furthermore, there is ALREADY HATE CRIMES LEGISLATION IN OUR FEDERAL LAW! All this act would do is extend the definition of hate crimes to include sexual orientation and gender identity as protected classes.

If it’s the hate crime legislation you don’t like, write legislation to remove all hate crime classifications from our legal system. See how that goes when you run for re-election and need the Black vote or the Hispanic vote or the Catholics…or the JEWS. This is not about how these legislators feel about the definition of hate crimes, this is about the kinds of voters they represent in their home districts and the types of attitudes they believe will get them re-elected.

That’s Eric Cantor on the right there, a good Jewish boy from the south. Richmond Jews, we ARE gems. I only bring up the Jewish thing because it so happens, religion is a protected class under the CURRENT hate crimes legislation that is the law in our country. And I only bring that up to help illustrate why Cantor’s position on the Matthew Shepard Act, shared by most if not all of the dissenting votes, is really a cover for simple bigotry and discrimination. If they tried to remove Jews from protection under  hate crimes legislation, I am sure he would have a problem with that. I WOULD TOO!

Selling your soul to pander to your voters is one thing. Wanna know what’s really out of line? Standing up on a national stage and explaining that the death of Matthew Shepard was a simple robbery, without any causal relationship existing between his sexuality and the severity and motive of the vicious murder.

Check out what Rep. Virginia Foxx (R-NC) had to say about Matthew Shepard.

Rachel Maddow hit the nail on the head in her intro to the video clip and interview with Mrs. Shepard.

… crimes like that are intended not only to hurt or murder an individual, but to terrorize an entire community. And so there is a national interest in ensuring that those crimes are solved and prosecuted.

Hate crimes have their own investigation unit within the FBI. Click Here for national statistics about the instance and motivation of hate crimes. Race is the first motivation, then religion with Jews being the number 1 religious target, then sexual orientation. Sexual minorities are the 3rd most likely group in the country to be victim of a hate crime, yet they are not a protected class under current federal definitions, and shouldn’t be according to 175 elected members of the House of Representatives. My very own representative, Eric Cantor, a good Jew protected under the current legislation, voted to keep sexual minorities out from under the umbrella of federal protection.

I just got off the phone with Cantor’s Hill office. I spoke with a nice staffer named Chris. I asked a simple question. What was the reasoning behind Rep. Cantor’s vote against the Matthew Shepard Act? Chris put me on hold while he “looked for someone who could answer the question for me,” because he didn’t know. He got back on the phone a minute or two later with some disappointing news. There was nobody in the office who could help answer my question at that time. Chris took down my name and address and said they’d get back to me. Before he hung up, I made him take down my phone number and assure me that someone from the office would call me with an answer. I’ll give him a call back tomorrow just to check in on the progress.  

I get that marriage equality is the country’s way of saying I can love anyone I want and be recognized legally for that relationship. I think that is awesome and I am SO excited about the progress on that front. A lot of hard work has gone into bringing equality to marriage law and I am profoundly appreciative of that work.

Talking about love is easy and accessible. It is a whole lot easier to churn up broad national support for campaigns that promote love, partnership, and happiness than national campaigns talking about the victims of hate crimes. The thing about hate crimes that is so important to get, is that the crime not only directly impacts the individual victim, but makes a victim out of every individual who fits into the same category that was the target of the violent hate. When I hear about things like the recent attack against gay men at UVA, you better believe it changes my level of comfort when I head back to visit. What about the first year guy who just pledged a frat and is scared to come out? How does that one hate crime impact his freedom and self-expression?

How did these hate crimes impact the LGBT people in their respective communities?


Like Lawrence ‘Larry’ King, killed at the age of 15 just weeks after publicly coming out as gay in his California Junior High.



Or 25 year old, Ryan Kieth Skipper who was stabbed about 20 times by two men because they say he was hitting on them.






Making the Gay Rights Movement about love and happiness is a great way to gain public appeal before demanding that our lives be valued equally, not just our relationships.  In all reality, my relationship is only as equal and free as the people who are a part of it.

I hope injustices like hate crimes and the truly heinous laws that discriminate against LGBT people in employment, housing, visiting rights, inheritance rights, and many other areas are not being forgotten or overlooked because we are gaining momentum in the fight for legally recognized relationships.

The Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Act has to pass through the Senate before we can call it an actual victory. Call your Senator and make sure they are voting YES to pass it! Also, feel free to call Rep. Eric Cantor at (202) 225-2815. Check to see if your representative was one of the 175 who voted against the Act and call them to find out why.

Be responsible and make sure your voice is heard! I’ll let you know what Eric Cantor’s office says when they get back to me.